TY - BOOK AU - Pearce, Ruth S. TI - Be hopeful, be strong, be brave, be curious: how coaching can help you get out of your own way and create a meaningful life SN - 9781394206544 U1 - 158.3 PY - 2023/// CY - New Jersey PB - John Wiley & Sons, Inc KW - Success KW - Personal growth KW - Personal coaching KW - Training N1 - Table of content: Foreword xv Introduction xix Section 1 Starting with Who You Are 1 Chapter 1 Finding Meaning & Purpose: Inspiration 3 The Meaning of Meaning 3 Case Study: Tegan 4 Finding Inspiration 5 What Is Meaning? 7 So, What Is Meaning? 8 Why Does Having a Sense of Meaning Matter? 8 Meaning Is Personal and Not Always Constant 9 What Are Some Ways to Find My Meaning? 10 Who Are You in This Life? 12 Starting at the Beginning 12 What Does All That Mean? 15 Case Study: Tegan 16 Values 17 Character Strengths, Motivation, and Engagement 18 Chapter 2 In Your Own Way: Normalization 21 Being in Your Own Way 23 Case Study: Tegan & Jamal 24 Normal vs. Average 25 Normal vs. Universal 26 Doing in Your Own Way 27 Psychological Flexibility 27 Case Study: Tegan 28 An Aside on the Opportunities of Groups 29 Chapter 3 Getting Out of Your Own Way: Improvisation 33 Reason and Emotion 34 Accepting Conflicting Truths 36 Case Study: Tegan 37 What If Every Choice Is Right— and Wrong? 39 There Is No Magic Recipe for Success 41 It Is Not Just the Client That Must Get Out of the Way 44 Recommendation 1 45 Recommendation 2 46 Recommendation 3 46 Recommendation 4 46 Where We Are Going Next 49 Section 2 Launching the Journey to Your Future 51 Chapter 4 Appreciating the Coaching Journey: Co-Creation 53 Case Study 54 Is a Coach Even Necessary? (Or Can I Coach Myself?) 54 The Role of the Coach 57 The Coaching Agenda 60 A Sounding Board 64 A Truthteller 65 FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real 66 An Accountability Partner 67 Case Study: Tegan 68 Being a Coaching Client 69 Chapter 5 Being Hopeful: Expectation 71 Focusing on Hope 71 Defining Hope 72 Elementary Time Travel 74 A Small Amount of Brain Science 75 Visualizing Outcomes 76 Seeing Pathways 79 Choosing Your Actions 79 Handling Disappointment 80 Interactions of Hope with Other Strengths 81 Case Study: Jamal 82 Cultivating Hope 84 Case Study: Jamal 84 Hope Is Not Just for Individuals 85 Chapter 6 Being Strong: Motivation 87 Strengths as Pathways to Motivation 87 Character Strengths 101 88 Strengths- Spotting in Coaching 89 Character Strengths as Core Motivators 90 Some Thoughts About Motivation 91 Case Study: Tegan 92 Assessments vs. Storytelling 96 Case Study: Tegan 96 Knowing Your Strengths 98 What Else Do You Need to Know About Strengths? 100 The Golden Mean 100 The Art of Balancing 103 SEAing Is Believing 104 There Is No Right Answer: What the Coach Sees 106 Bringing It Back to Motivation 107 Chapter 7 Being Brave: Conversation 109 Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable 110 Doubt and Bravery 110 What the Research Tells Us 112 Getting Specific 114 Changing the Narrative with Coaching 116 Reframe #1: I Will Cope 116 Reframe #2: Feeling Bad Is Good 118 Reframe #3: Bravery Can Be Developed a Little at a Time 119 Case Study: Jamal 120 Reframe #4: Bravery Is Sometimes Knowing When to Say No 122 Fired Up with Curiosity 124 Chapter 8 Being Curious: Exploration 125 What Is Curiosity? 126 Matchmaking in Coaching and Other Helping Situations 128 Case Study: Tegan 128 Why Curiosity Is Powerful 130 Case Study: Jamal 132 Why Curiosity Can Be Too Much 133 Curiosity as the Antithesis of Mindfulness 133 Curiosity as Overcompensation for Nerves 136 Cultivating Healthy Curiosity as a Coach 137 Cultivating Healthy Curiosity as a Client 138 The Interaction of Client and Coach 139 Case Study: Tegan 141 Being Curious About Curiosity 144 Section 3 Moving (Closer) to Who You Want to Be 147 Chapter 9 Creating Your Meaningful Life: Transformation 149 Incidental Coaching 150 Is Meaning Found or Created? 151 Discoveries You Would Have Made Anyway— Eventually 153 Case Study: Jamal 154 And Discoveries That Might Have Remained Hidden 156 Sometimes It Is About Recognition 156 Being Clear About the Value of Transformation 158 Being Open to Surprises 160 Coaches Transform Too 162 Some Last Thoughts on Meaning and Transformation 162 Chapter 10 Conclusion: Choosing Your Next Act: Intention 165 Revisiting Being Open to Surprises 166 Surprises Invite Us to Take a Fresh Perspective 167 Taking Stock 168 Being Hopeful 168 Being Strong 168 Being Brave 169 Being Curious 169 Moving Forward with Intention— and Action 170 Immediate Intention 170 Habit Forming and Building 171 Medium-Term Intention 172 Long-Term Intention 172 Launch Your Meaningful Life 173 Afterword— AI: Next‐Level Coaching or Ethical No‐no? 175 Appendix A Core Competencies for Clients 191 Appendix B Tegan’s Profile 197 Appendix C Jamal’s Profile 199 Appendix D What to Ask a Potential Coach 201 Appendix E Is It Time for a Change? Is This a Coaching Moment for You? 205 How Often and How Long? 206 Readiness for Change 207 Are You Ready for Coaching? 209 Acknowledgments 211 About the Author 215 About the Book Advisory Board 217 Index 223 [https://www.wiley.com/en-be/Be+Hopeful%2C+Be+Strong%2C+Be+Brave%2C+Be+Curious%3A+How+Coaching+Can+Help+You+Get+Out+of+Your+Own+Way+and+Create+A+Meaningful+Life-p-9781394206544#tableofcontents-section] N2 - Understand the valuable insights a professional life coach can bring to your life In Be Hopeful, Be Strong, Be Brave, Be Curious: How Coaching Can Help You Get Out Of Your Own Way and Create A Meaningful Life, veteran coach Ruth Pearce delivers an incisive set of strategies designed to help you celebrate your wins and focus on the positives in your life. In this “portable life coach,” you’ll learn how to look at problems, challenges, and uncertainties in a way that can lead to deeper meaning in your professional and personal life. The author describes the substantial benefits of working with an actual coach, and how a coach can help you during times of struggle and in times of growth. You’ll discover how: To find the resources you need to live your life better and bring perspective, curiosity, and a willingness to challenge beliefs to everything you do To create generative, expansive, and open solutions to some of life’s most challenging obstacles A coach can benefit you in your work, at home, at school, and anywhere else Perfect for anyone who is considering working with a life coach to help them understand their professional and personal goals, Be Hopeful, Be Strong, Be Brave, Be Curious is also a must-read for those curious about the principles underlying professional and life coaching. (https://www.wiley.com/en-be/Be+Hopeful%2C+Be+Strong%2C+Be+Brave%2C+Be+Curious%3A+How+Coaching+Can+Help+You+Get+Out+of+Your+Own+Way+and+Create+A+Meaningful+Life-p-9781394206544#description-section) ER -