TY - BOOK AU - Congleton, Christina TI - Getting over ourselves: moving beyond a culture of burnout, loneliness, and narcissism SN - 9781394169856 U1 - 158.1 PY - 2024/// CY - New Jersey PB - John Wiley & Sons, Inc. KW - Burn out (Psychology) KW - Self-actualization (Psychology) N1 - Table of content: Acknowledgments xi Introduction 1 Part I The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves 5 1 A World on Edge 7 Paradise Burning 8 Stressed to Death 12 A Failed Prediction 15 Keynes Versus Hayek 17 The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism 24 2 Lost Heroes 29 Selfie Generation 32 Lonely Generation 38 Burnout Generation 42 Lost Generation 47 Another Failed Prediction? 51 3 Spirals of Change 55 What Was Enlightenment? 56 From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer 58 Tracing the Path of Human Development 61 The Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind) 64 The Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind) 66 The Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind) 71 Toxic Achieverism 72 Spiral to Arc 74 4 Wandering at an Apex 77 The Self-Questioning Transformer 77 Navigating the Postmodern Terrain 82 Neoliberal Quicksand 87 Destroy This Model 88 Slipping Through the Cracks 89 Part II Un-self Help 93 5 Selfies and Self-Realization Guidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility 95 Narcissism as Mistaken Identity 96 Default Mode 100 Narrative Versus Minimal Self 102 The True Meaning of Humility 105 The Richness of Self-Realization 107 Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment 109 6 Loneliness and Oneness Guidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence 117 Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes 118 Psychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain 125 Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny 132 Anchoring in the Practice of Connection 134 7 Burnout and Wholeheartedness Guidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability 139 When Your Heart's Not in It 140 Heart as Escape Hatch 145 Mark of the Valkyries 147 Real Compassion 149 Vulnerable Confidence 151 The Heart of Yes and No 153 Anchoring in the Practice of Courage 154 8 Lost and Liberated Guidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness 159 Dare to Not Know 164 Staying with Uncertainty 166 The Cure in Curiosity 168 Relaxing into Insight 169 The Mindful Brain 173 The Modern Mindfulness Trap 176 Anchoring in the Practice of Wonder 179 Part III Concluding and Beginning 183 9 Friends Between Worlds 185 Calling All Builders 187 Power in Diversity, Diversity in Power 188 Moving Slowly 189 Listening Deeply 191 Loving Fiercely 192 I Don't Want to Move to Mars 193 Room for Alternatives 195 Heroes of Belonging 196 Notes 199 References 203 Recommended Reading 239 About the Author 241 Index 243 [https://www.wiley.com/en-au/Getting+Over+Ourselves%3A+Moving+Beyond+a+Culture+of+Burnout%2C+Loneliness%2C+and+Narcissism-p-9781394332304#tableofcontents-section] N2 - Move beyond empty "life hacks" to connect with your deepest humanity In Getting Over Ourselves: Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism, human development specialist and leadership coach Christina Congleton delivers an insightful and urgently needed discussion of how people can break out of the tired cliches of the self-help genre, and move toward new levels of connection, engagement, and capacity in navigating an uncertain world. In the book, you'll explore how modern attitudes of individualism that were once freeing now converge with environmental destruction, inequality, and an alarming uptick in depression, substance abuse, and suicide to significantly damage the potential of people everywhere. You'll also find concrete strategies—rooted in developmental psychology—that show us new ways to approach these challenging times. Getting Over Ourselves offers: Insights into why “life hacks,” productivity seminars, and more "adulting" are not the solutions to the issues faced by people today Frameworks that reject the idea that there is a separate, solitary self in need of constant improvement, and connect you with your deepest humanity Effective techniques for fending off burnout and ways to move beyond the unsatisfactory status quo An essential and timely work, Getting Over Ourselves is the antidote to the skin-deep, ineffective "self-help" material that you've been looking for. (https://www.wiley.com/en-au/Getting+Over+Ourselves%3A+Moving+Beyond+a+Culture+of+Burnout%2C+Loneliness%2C+and+Narcissism-p-9781394332304) ER -